Little important things.

The Wandering Nerd July 14th, 2007

I had the opportunity tonight to let someone know how important they were to me, to my life, and to the man that I have become.

As males, we are somewhat trapped into a mold that allows us little latitude when it comes to expressing our thoughts or feelings. In some ways I grew up with a set of instructions that are one generation removed from the time in which I exist. From what I understand, it’s now expected, or at least accepted, for males to be more forthcoming with what it is they feel. For me, the internal crap I deal with has always been something that is very private, essentially solely mine. This has an associated cost. Something far beyond what it should be. The requisite pound of flesh isn’t enough and what it truly consumes is too steep a price, but I’ve had a hard time breaking free of the mores that have bound me. It has cost me friendships, relationships, and divergent futures.

Sometimes the most difficult thing we can do is simply telling people what they mean to us. We’ve all been conditioned, somehow, to hide the single most important attribute to humanity. That is, to acknowledge the connections we have to those around us. So for what it’s worth, if you’re reading this page at this point, in its infancy, you are directly connected to me and I thank you for the few spare moments that you have spent here. Further, if I may trouble you, I’ll only ask that you take some time to reflect on the people that are important to you. Let them know that you at least acknowledge and appreciate that most subtle and powerful of human endeavors: a connection. Yeah, they’ll probably discount it, or even rib you for saying it. But it’s important. Little things matter. Little things like that. When it’s all said and done, we have precious few moments to say the important little things, grab those moments by the collar.

Now get out of here, I’ve got some bourbon and a pack of smokes that need my attention…

I wanna’ pull on your coat about something tonight…

-tom waits

3 Responses to “Little important things.”

  1. tubenerdon 14 Jul 2007 at 10:47 am

    Here! Here! Remind me to tell you stories of how I filled my big bag of regret. Until then, thanks for being out there wandering.

  2. Bunnyon 15 Jul 2007 at 11:51 am

    Hey! The site looks great. Have a wonderful time roaming the Earth. :)

  3. spectreon 31 Jul 2007 at 9:47 am

    I’m still not giving you my beer Jimmy…

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